I find that I am a very forgiving person; perhaps too much so for my own good. Yes, yes, I know what Christ says about forgiveness and grace, but when the pain is raw and the edges of the wounds are jagged and torn, in need of tending. I'm in health care so I know how to patch myself up in most cases but when it comes to wounds of the heart, I'm not so good. Sure, I can make some progress; there are balms that help alleviate the emotional, mental and physical toll such grief and pain can take, but the real healing comes when there is someone who has been in that "place". Maybe they have been "there" 3 or 4 times, or even more. And those of us that do, we manage and limp along, knowing in our hearts that the healing another brings is another way of seeing, and revealing us in ways we had never seen ourselves before. And kindly with deliberate care, they--being the ones who brought the grief to us--can be instrumental in our return to wholeness if they are the kindly souls we have always hoped they would be: caring, compassionate, in a helping profession, some who has walked our journey, struggled on our path, and though we may not have cared about their advice at the time, we eventually see some wisdom in what they have been trying to say all along.
I am at the place where I can acknowledge that...now. I wasn't there a week ago, but I am newly arrived at the possibilities where I find my heart and mind and spirit open to new ideas and ways of being and doing. We have this ideal or idea of what God is regardless of our faith life, past or present. A benevolent, strong but gentle "father" or "mother" or "sister" image. But the author of this article I bring to your attention courtesy of my Texas friend Jan Hilton who sent it to me as a love offering, which I enfolded to my being because it spoke and whispered and occasionally shouted the wisdom it offers.
In the suffering of physical pain we experience a lot mental and emotional pain; they go hand in hand. It is easy to dwell on the physical because it is tangible and made manifest in our physical selves. Our physical well-being is strongly linked to our emotions and how we think and perceive our grief, this current pain that affects everything.
So I offer to you, you of all faiths and backgrounds and beliefs, this group of words of wisdom. Simple and easy to comprehend. From a spiritual seeker writer and creator of marvelous spirit art and though I give you the benefits of spiritual discomfort:
Love wants to reach out and manhandle us,
Read the rest of this enlightening article here. You will be glad you did...
This is my offering to you because it was an offering to me in my time of relational grief. May you glean from it ways of coping and doing and moving forward; we all have so much life to live, let's not grief here too long. Raise a cairn to it's memory but dwell not upon it forever, or you will lose yourself to what you cannot have or hope to attain. Gradually set it aside, so it will not get into your way as you go along your journey to joy and peace where serenity awaits us all, even me.