tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24438442.post6103158758173172114..comments2023-05-07T02:33:28.149-07:00Comments on Come to the Table...: Kirkepiscatoid: "Oh, you wanted me to GUARD the sheep?"Catherinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04267544451078638468noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24438442.post-72292054749158358832010-09-15T02:50:55.985-07:002010-09-15T02:50:55.985-07:00Thank you for sharing this post. The statistics yo...Thank you for sharing this post. The statistics you reported are shocking!<br />We have problems here in Britain (mainly in the RC Church) about clergy sexual misconduct and it is a sorry affair. I honestly thought that things were a bit better across the pond. Lots of love and prayers! DDiegohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12462094733254828914noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24438442.post-47708783430028159712010-09-07T17:52:18.642-07:002010-09-07T17:52:18.642-07:00Dear Mompriest, that she is me.Dear Mompriest, that she is me.Catherinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04267544451078638468noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24438442.post-31740479629557057202010-09-07T11:22:06.287-07:002010-09-07T11:22:06.287-07:00Thanks for the blog shout-out, Catherine, and than...Thanks for the blog shout-out, Catherine, and thanks for your bravery.<br /><br />I also appreciate Mompriest's comment. One can argue that she brings up the most important thing, the need for this "code of slience" to be broken on many fronts.<br /><br />Churches are difficult places to break the "code of silence" because we all want to be "nice" at church, right? Not to mention churches have their own rules, their own forms of discipline, and we tend to not think of them in the ways we do secular civil law.<br /><br />But as children of the light, we need to learn to call the darkness what it is.Kirkepiscatoidhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02651684515435040529noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24438442.post-19190803308387007282010-09-07T06:19:27.769-07:002010-09-07T06:19:27.769-07:00we say we, churces, want to be places of compassio...we say we, churces, want to be places of compassion and hope, we want to "grow", we want people to come and be a part of our community. And then we fail to acknowledge our dark side, the place where abuse takes place in many forms and is tolerated. It's not just CSM but abuse in many forms - parishioners gossiping and abusing other parishioners with cruelity, parishioners abusing their clergy - not usually sexual abuse, but abuse nonetheless - and ALL allowed to remain hidden, not discussed, and secretive. And tolerated. All because we don't really understand what it means to love and forgive - we mistake the heart and truth of those actions (love and forgiveness) for silence and tolerance of abuse.<br /><br />I'm sorry for your friend, for her abuse, and the added pain of struggling to find a safe way to move forward.Terrihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15667178624061122421noreply@blogger.com